52 Things Your Mother Never Told You.

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52 Things Your Mother Never Told You

Have you ever stopped and thought “why did my mother not tell me this?”.  I certainly have.
It was the day after our first child was born and I had to get up to use the toilet, located at the far end of a very long hospital corridor.
And the thing is, I couldn’t walk and could barely manage a wobble.  It felt as though all of my insides had been squeezed and then poked back into my body, all bruised and swollen.

Nobody told me that would happen, or that it would take weeks to be able to sit without ice.

I also was never enlightened to the fact that when a baby projectile vomits, it looks like a sheet of liquid and surprisingly can reach the other side of the room.  I guess that’s why they use the word projectile!

Or that I would feel so tired in those early weeks with a newborn, that I literally lost the capacity to form words and I would cry when I saw my bed because I was so desperate to be in it.

So in the spirit of learning by mistakes, here are some that you may recognise for yourself.  And if it happens to be all 52, you are in good company!

  1. If you knock on a door and it doesn’t open, try another one and keep going – until one opens before you even get there.
  2. Preheat the oven before baking a cake. It matters!
  3. Put sunscreen on your child during an overcast day.  Don’t let the hiding sun fool you.
  4. Buying a puppy on a whim because your kids beg you to – usually ends in disaster.  Puppies poop and wee in the house for a solid six months (pardon the pun).
  5. Wear a mask when flying.  Aeroplanes are germ infested petri-dishes.
  6. If you are flying with kids – good luck.
  7. Don’t miss the opportunity to travel. Often and in far-flung places.
  8. Don’t become bitter.  Ever.  It’s a slippery slope to becoming one of those shrivelled, grey nasty people who ooze contempt.  Plus it makes you ugly.
  9. Smile always. Laugh often. Hug your loves for at least 60 seconds each day.
  10. Hold your kid’s hands when in public.  Losing a child whilst shopping is one of the most traumatic experiences a parent can ever face.
  11. Don’t compare yourself to others. Don’t compare yourself to others. Don’t compare yourself to others.  Repeat as often as needed.  Daily.
  12. The grass is never greener on the other side.  Never.
  13. Take risks because you never know what is just around the corner – even if you can’t see it.
  14. Don’t shy away from difficult situations – they are the mortar that builds a house and make it strong.  Strength comes through adversity.
  15. When and if you become a parent, remember that your spouse was, and always will be, your first love.
  16. Don’t let your marriage go stale.  Invest in quality time together, even if it means hiding in a cupboard together so the kids don’t find you, drinking wine.
  17. Remember your kids are with you for a short time and your spouse forever.  Make your marriage a keeper.
  18. When the days are long – picture what your life will look like in ten years time.  Nothing stays the same.
  19. Teenage boys smell.  Invest in deodorant.
  20. Teenage girls will cry.  A lot. Be patient – at least once a month.  You were once that teenager.
  21. Embrace different cultures and don’t be pig-headed about your nationality being superior.
  22. Be prepared for storms to follow rainbows. The good news is, it’s generally a constant cycle of life  – so hang in there with the tough times.
  23. Relax – life is way too short to sweat the small stuff.
  24. Don’t give your kids too many choices. Remember they are little people and you are the adult.
  25. Don’t keep company with people who make you feel bad.  Toxic friends will pull you down.
  26. Don’t gossip.  It’s an unattractive trait.  No matter how tempting it may be to slander someone in the moment.  It always makes your heart feel black.
  27. Living a simple life is totally ok.  More than ok.  It’s paradise once you just let go
  28. Don’t chase money.  It’s like water and slips through your hands quicker than you can grasp it.
  29. Be content in the moment and stop striving for better.  Better is today.
  30. Don’t let your kids whine.  They will turn into obnoxious adults.
  31. If you allow your kids to answer you back, you are welcoming disrespect into your lives.  Guard your heart and theirs.
  32. Hamsters bite.  Get a rabbit instead.  Or a fish.  They don’t live very long.
  33. Invest in your kid’s hearts and not the stuff they want.
  34. Too many after-school activities can cause your kids to become exhausted. Protect their childhood.
  35. Let your kids play! Climb trees, skin their knees, ride bikes.  Fresh air is a child’s best friend.
  36. If your kids are bored – give them a high five and watch what happens.
  37. Competition with others makes your teeth grow fangs.  Think about it.  Fangs will repel people.
  38. Be content with what you have.
  39. Don’t over-analyse risks.  You won’t leave the house.
  40. Be kind.  Always.  To everyone.  One day that kindness will return to you tenfold.
  41. Having a small group of  ‘keeper friends’ is better than a gang of many, who make you feel lonely.
  42. You are your children’s greatest teachers.  Don’t underestimate the impact you have on their lives forever.
  43. Be still for at least 10 minutes a day.  Switch off and watch your heart rejuvenate.
  44. One day your kid’s will grow out of wetting the bed.  Grown adults don’t wet themselves, unless they are post-natal women and in that case, you may need to invest in Teena.
  45. Some days you will smash the world like a boss.  Other days you will put your keys in the fridge.
  46. Be happy.  It drives people crazy.
  47. Silence is the best reply to a fool.
  48. Don’t worry about the amount of vegetables your kids don’t eat – one day they will be steaming asparagus and eating raw broccoli.
  49. Surround yourself with people who get you.
  50. Know that you are a limited edition.  Love your soul.
  51. You may find you have nothing in common with people who wash, dry and put all their laundry away in the same day.  This is ok.  Welcome to the club of reality with kids.
  52. Dance in the rain.  It’s life-changing.

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Miscarriage – When Your Baby’s Heartbeat Stops – Part One

miscarriage pt 1

When Your Baby’s Heartbeat Stops
Part One

On behalf of all the mother’s who have been through the trauma
of miscarriage and have angel babies in heaven.
This is their story.

We all know the fear.
Every-time we go to the toilet, we pray that there won’t be a blood stain on the paper.  We pray like mad it will be clear.  And we wait and wait, until we can’t wait any longer.

We wake, early, its 5am and still pitch dark outside. But morning urine is stronger and maybe, just maybe there will be two lines.
Our legs shake, heck our hands shake and we pee on our fingers, as well as the stick.  We are so nervous and worry we haven’t done it correctly.  Will the test be a waste?
We tell ourselves not to worry.  There is a box of pregnancy sticks waiting for just this moment.  If this doesn’t work, we will try a fresh one.

Then we sit and wait.  We set the timer and tell ourselves not to look until the buzzer has gone off.  But impatience sets in and we take a peek.
We squint and check the picture on the box.  Could this be true?  Two lines?
There are two red lines!!!!  We are pregnant!!!!
We shriek and run into the bedroom, jumping on our husband’s sleeping form.
It has worked!  We made a baby.  We are having a baby!!

We try to hide the euphoric feelings that are buzzing around our body.  Calm down we say.  Can’t be good for the baby.
The baby!  There is a baby in there.
We place our hand over our stomach and shake our head.  What a miracle.  How we want to protect this tiny new life so very much.

Two weeks pass, the doctor has confirmed the pregnancy and done the bloods.  The HCG levels (pregnancy hormones) are a little lower than he would ideally like, but don’t lose heart, he says.


We go to work or look after other children, have coffee with friends, care for our families, all the while thinking and praying for our little bean to be safe.
We continually check for positive signs.  Are our breasts tender?  Has morning sickness kicked in?  We hope morning sickness will begin soon – a sign of strong hormones.  Do we have any cravings?
We can’t be sure.

Then one night a few weeks later, when we drag ourselves to the toilet for the hundredth time, we see it.
Blood.
Bright red blood on our knickers.  And a whole lot of blood on the toilet paper.
In that instant our heart drops, right down to our feet.
We feel sick, we shake, we keep saying, “no, no, no, no, not again, please not again”.

We crawl back into bed, trying to ignore the ache in our pelvic area that rises to a painful crescendo, dipping and diving and taunting us within our bodies, of which we have no control.
We tell ourselves that if we can sleep, the blood may be gone by morning.  It could just be break-through bleeding.  It’s common.  It happens – heck some women bleed the whole way through their pregnancy.
We start to Google ‘bleeding when pregnant’ and choose to read only the positive outcomes.
This for now is enough. There is still hope.

We call work and tell them we can’t make it in, we organise a sitter for the kids, we don’t tell a soul or we tell everyone and ask them to pray.  For the life of our child.  The child that we love with an everlasting fierceness that pierces our soul.  We want this baby so very much.
We have waited for this baby for such a long time.

We put off going to the toilet and the potential find of fresh blood.  We clench our legs together, willing that little seed to hang in there.
“Mummy is here. You are not alone little love.  You are so loved already.  So precious”.
We say this over and over like a chant.
We will all of our strength onto the baby.  Our hands don’t stop caressing our still-flat stomach.
“Please be ok baby.  Please be ok baby.  Please be ok baby”.
Over and over and over again.

Our name is called and we walk slowly into the radiographer’s dark room.  We lay down onto the crisp white paper, lining  the skinny bed with the squeaky rubber mattress.  We stare at the mattress.  Always the same colour.  Dark blue, like the ocean deep, matching the frightened blackness of our souls.

The nurse is so lovely and speaks very quietly and slowly.  We are asked to confirm the reason for the visit.
Yes it is bleeding we are experiencing.  Our voice is raspy and strained.  Our throats ache with the pressure of holding back the wall of emotions that threaten to explode.  Everywhere.
All over this tiny cubicle space and all over the people inhabiting it.  The dark corners of the room appear to sneer and beckon to us, a reminder that in a few short minutes, our whole world will shatter, all over again, just like before.


Again, very gently, we are told, this could be the start of our beloved baby miscarrying.  Our chin wobbles and our eyes fill with hot tears ready to spill any minute.
“Are we having any pain down below”?  Again, a nod, ever so slightly, “yes, yes we are”.
“Let’s have a little look at you and baby” she whispers.
The jelly will be cold we are told.
The screen is turned away from us.

There is silence.
The nurse’s face gives nothing away.  One minute, two minutes pass.
We don’t hear a thump, thump, thumpity-thump of a heartbeat. We think we may be sick.

Then our little bellies are wiped clean and we are asked to sit up when we are ready.
And it comes, the words we have been dreading ever since we fell pregnant,
“I am terribly sorry but it appears your baby has no heartbeat and the pregnancy is not viable.  The symptoms you are experiencing are consistent with a miscarriage”.
There are more words of condolence but we don’t hear them in the fog of grief, shock and overwhelming sadness.

The dam bursts and we sob and sob. Between gulps we manage to ask if it was anything we did wrong.
“Could it have been the sushi consumed whilst unaware of the pregnancy?  Or the glass of wine a few weeks ago”?

But her kind eyes says it all.
As many as 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage.
There is nothing that has made this happen.  It is an act of nature that baby just wasn’t ready for this world.
Empty words which feel so painful to hear.

Our bleak minds compute the fact that we could neither protect our baby or sustain life.  We are powerless in a way.
And that is the hardest pill to swallow.  This being outside of our control.  We feel so very broken.
But how we want this child!!!  So very much and it seems so unfair all at the same time.

This story literally describes millions and millions of women all over the world in this exact situation.  Miscarriage has been described as the silent grief.

These precious women warriors are unable to ever meet their children, the ones that were formed in their womb and grew as much as they possibly could.  And worst still, oftentimes there isn’t a solid reason as to why the miscarriage occurred.
It is an ending of confusion and grief, which is tragically all too common.
Empty comfort for those, whose pregnancies never have the opportunity to continue.

 

Here are a few things that can help a grieving mummy friend or yourself:

-1  Stop and acknowledge the existence of your child.

You have been a mother since your baby was conceived and the loss of your little one doesn’t make you any less of a mother.  It makes you a mother who grieves your child.  Have a thanksgiving service with close family.  Say a prayer, make a plaque and name your baby.  Say goodbye in a way that acknowledges life.

-2  Share with your trusted tribe that you are hurting. 

These need to be women you can cry with, who will sit with you whilst you talk (or not), ones who can hold you during your most difficult stages.
Part of the healing lies in fully comprehending the loss.

-3  Try not to alienate your partner because you were the one it happened to.

You are both parents and the loss is the same for mum and dad.  Even though your partner may be grieving in a different way than you, he is still grieving.  Give each other a double portion of grace and kindness and journey this painful path together.

-4  Take all the time you need to recover.

Don’t rush yourself back to normal.  If you need a period of time to reflect and heal, take it.  Believe me, you will be a much healthier and stronger person if you do give yourself some grace to work through the trauma of losing your child.
Seek professional help if you are struggling to let go.

-5  Take care of yourself.

Don’t allow grief to swallow you whole because it is so vile and will do so if you don’t try and build back into yourself.   Look after yourself with good food, have long soothing baths, read feel-good books, take walks outside, buy yourself a new outfit or some great shoes. Whatever it is that feeds back into your heart – go do it.  And do it often.  It will make an enormous difference to your healthy recovery.

-6  Lastly, expect for something to trigger the hurt and grief all over again.

It could be something quite innocent said to you by someone in passing, which hits right at the heart of your sorrow all over again.
Ride with it and tell someone what has happened.  Talk about it and before you know it, you will be back on your feet again.  You will find that these lows won’t occur quite so much and you can look back and recognise how far you have come in your grief and journey loss.

And finally, don’t lose hope because hope anchors the soul to keep believing for the one thing that you desire.  And absolutely, don’t give up.  Not on your body, nor your future little love.

‘Hope can feel a bit like a gentle breeze that ruffles your hair.
It is not always loud or courageous, swirling madly about your feet.

It is often swinging your legs out of bed in the morning and starting your day,
despite feeling so very sad and really quite unable.

Hope is whispering, “yes”, when you want to scream, “no”.
Hope is believing that the gentle breeze will be there tomorrow
and acknowledging its presence beside you.

And one day, when the sun shines warm on your face and you smile more than cry,
and that breeze caresses your face once again,
you will realise how far you have come in this difficult and beautiful thing we call life.

Hope is trusting all over again that life will begin and flourish once more’.
-C Irwin-©

 

 

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Positive Parenting-Raising Entitled Children

Positive Parenting – Part Five

Raising Entitled Children


The final in our five part series of Positive Parenting is Raising Entitled Children.

When we had only been parents for a few years, we told our firstborn that we would treat her to an ice-cream. It was a hot day in Australia and the perfect way to cool her down.
We bought her a fluffy, vanilla flavoured, soft serve in a cone, and predictably, as it was such a scorcher of a day, the ice-cream had already begun to melt before we had a chance to give it to her.
I did what every parent would naturally do, and quickly licked around the base of the cone to make sure that our three year old didn’t instantly wear the sticky treat.

What followed was the most horrific tantrum we had ever seen!
Kicking and screaming at me for touching her ice-cream, let alone eating it! Her tiny back arched in her car seat, face puce-coloured in utter rage.

In this situation, we would all agree that I was in the wrong. It was her ice-cream and I had no right to eat it before she did.
And the easiest and quickest solution would have been for me to keep her ice-cream and buy her another.
Right?

Well actually, no. That’s not what we did.
In fact, I told her if she didn’t stop her screaming, I would throw it out the window.
I didn’t count until three, I didn’t threaten her over and over. I just told her there would be consequences to her actions.
Once.


Can you guess what happened?
Yep, it went out the window.

The tantrum didn’t wane. Not all the way home, or the following hour.
It was epic.

But the thing is, we didn’t want her to be ungrateful. We wanted her to know that her behaviour wasn’t acceptable.
Yes it was an ice-cream, but if we had let it slide, that sort of behaviour would have gone on and on.
Different object, same heart.

So, two things happened.
One, she never, ever, ever repeated that pattern again.
And two, she also never forgot mummy chucking her ice-cream!
That three year old is now 20 and still remembers!

So here is the thing- we didn’t want to raise a child that felt entitled.
We desired for our child to be grateful for what she had, and that meant dealing with something as small as an
ice-cream. And for sure, we didn’t ever want to see that pattern repeated and be the parents who feared touching their kid’s ice cream, or toy or book or however the next scenario played out. And believe me, it would have played out again.
That would make us bound to her behaviour and frightened of her kicking off again.
We wanted to teach her through life lessons and that day – it was ice-cream.

The seeds of entitlement are sown over the years, in a million little parenting decisions, such as our ice-cream scenario.


So how do you ensure that your children don’t feel entitled?

Here are five common entitled traits and their solutions:

-1 Ensuring your children are never sad

This is allowing your child to have their own way all the time. It may be giving in to them when they see a toy they want, whilst you are busy doing grocery shopping. Or allowing them to dominate a conversation you are having with a friend. The quickest and easiest way to avoid a conflict is to let them have what they want. However, it places enormous pressure on parents when their child is unable to cope with a “no”. What happens when they are older and they realise that the world actually doesn’t stop for them? Dropping everything to appease them makes them constantly the centre of attention, which isn’t an endearing quality to have.
The Solution: In order for your child to not try and gain your attention in negative ways, try allocating specific time each day to be with them, on their terms.
This will look different in every family, but in ours, we make sure each of our six children, have at least 15 minutes with either my husband or myself.
This gives them space to talk, play or simply sit beside us and be together.
It also teaches them that they don’t need to play up to gain our attention.

-2 The Entitler

When children feel entitled, it is a difficult mind-set to change. Like most things, this starts in small ways, but soon can get out of control. It might end up looking like fixing multiple meals because your kids won’t eat what you cook, or constantly picking up toys, clothes or dirty dishes on their behalf. Because, in the moment, it’s easier than dealing with the fall-out and poor behaviour.
If you find yourself annoyed because your children expect you to go out of your way, all the time for them, it’s a big clue that you need to change your parenting style.
The Solution: Explain to your children what is expected of them. Such as, “I will only wash clothes that are in the laundry basket. Not on the floor in the bathroom or in the corner of your room”. Believe me they will soon tire of wearing dirty, smelly clothes.
For your little ones, show them where the toys go. From a very early age they are able to do these small tasks on their own. I was always amazed when my children had been to daycare and one day, I witnessed all of the small people packing away their toys, of their own accord. At three years of age!
Set your children up for success by asking them “Now, what can you do to help you remember?” Then follow through and don’t step in and do it for them!

-3 The Rescuer

If your children can’t remember their packed lunch for school, or their sports kit for outdoor play, it may be time for you to step back and allow them to experience the consequences of their actions. The truth is, if you find yourself frantically helping your kids finish tasks that they should have already done (such as a school project) , you aren’t really helping them.
You are rescuing them. And there comes a point when they need to be accountable for their own actions.
The Solution: Tell your children you will no longer be rescuing them. And even though all you may want to do is protect them from getting into trouble at school, or feeling left out because they are unable to play outside, they need to learn to be responsible.
Work with them and help them to find their own ways of remembering certain things. However, when the situation arises, don’t become involved if they have forgotten. It is so hard to do, but you will soon discover your kids will make giant leaps in terms of being capable of handling responsibility and following through on a task.

-4 The Satisfier 

We have all done this because we love our children and want to bless them. However, if your children begin to call the shots, such as deciding on watching a movie that is not age appropriate (but all his/her friends are allowed), it’s easy to give in. It is our job though, to set the appropriate limits – because we are the grown ups.
Entitled children are known for thinking of themselves as above the rules and deserving the best of what life has to offer. This mindset can be changed by sticking with the limits we set, and ignoring the inevitable protests and negotiations.
The Solution: Allow your children the freedom to be in charge of certain positive things. This means giving them the ability to make decisions on various things. It might be choosing a certain meal for dinner, or an activity they would like to engage in. When children have more control over some aspects of their lives, they are less likely to play up when you say no or enforce limits in other areas.

5- The Excessive Parent

 If you find yourself going over and above in your efforts to make sure your children have the best of everything, it may make them regard these standards as the norm. If you set the bar high on lavish gifts, expensive clothes, the latest tech products, they will feel entitled to these things, and carry that into adulthood.
We all love nice things but children don’t really need them. Cutting back on these indulgences will make for happier, more contented kids down the road.
The Solution: Take pleasure in the small things and model this thought pattern to your children, encouraging them to express gratitude for what they do have, rather than focussing on what they don’t. Research shows that grateful people are happier overall. Involve your kids in daily gratitude rituals and help them appreciate what is most important in their lives.


Often, the smallest of tweaks can make a huge difference in the lives of your children, as well as their hearts.

We all want our precious tribe to be happy, not only as little people, but in adulthood as well. This takes hard work, especially when they are young, and it’s so tempting to let things slide and give them what they want. Instant happiness!
However, we all know that there is a nasty kick-back to instant happiness and self-gratification, so look at the long-term benefit and blessings, rather than the short-term ease of giving your children everything they want in the moment.

We learnt that parenting is a bit like owning a credit card. Using it when we want something and then paying it back over a very long period. We have been in this situation with our spending and I can honestly say, paying off a debt where I can’t actually remember what I spent it on, was not at all pleasant.

Parenting can be the same. Giving in to your children because it’s temporarily easier, isn’t the wisest move long-term. Because believe me, you will be paying for it years after. In fact, the older children become, the harder it is to change their ways. It’s all they have ever known.

Be the parent who takes advantage of every situation, to correct poor behaviour.
And as they grow up in that environment, the parenting becomes so much easier and your children become utterly delightful adults in every way.

 

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Positive Parenting – Why it’s OK to Say No

Positive Parenting – Part Three
Why It’s OK to Say No to Your Child

When my husband and I were first-time parents we took a six week parenting course through our church.
The sole reason for the commitment, was that we had heard friends of ours wax lyrical about how they would teach us to get our baby to sleep.
Now one thing, you may not know about me, is that sleep is more important to me than food, water or breathing, except I do need oxygen to actually sleep, so breathing only just pips sleep.
Just.

I need an enormous amount of shut eye! I am talking a solid 8-10 hours a night and I was understandably terrified of having a baby and never sleeping for the remaining – oh five or so years.
The horror stories of sleep deprivation were at the forefront of my mind and I was deeply concerned.
Because, to put it lightly, I’m not the slightest bit pleasant to live with when I don’t sleep. The End.


So I dragged my eight month pregnant bump, my hubby and my sick bag to these parenting night classes without fail.
I took notes, threw up in the car on the way, threw up in the toilet during the sessions, tea breaks and all the way home.
However, I was focused. With a Capital ‘F’.

By hook, crook and regurgitated food, my baby was going to learn how to sleep.

And then roughly two weeks after the final class, our little one arrived and I, brand new, milk-leaking, fully lactating, emotional mess new-mummy, was beyond grateful for those weeks of absorbing wisdom from other parents who had gone way before me. I was so thankful to benefit from their experience and sound counsel.

Because, as they say, knowledge is power and “Praise Be!” – because our little one did sleep and so did the five that followed in the 13 years after her.

I will touch on what we learnt about sleeping and subsequently implemented, in the next blog, but for today, I want to encourage other families that it’s ok to say no, as a huge part of teaching our little ones to sleep began with a wise and gentle “no”.

It’s ok to say “no” to the midwife, who tells you that your newborn needs “topping up” and your breast milk isn’t sufficient.

It’s ok to say “no”, because the hospital personnel want to take your baby away for tests that you don’t understand the significance of.

It’s ok to say “no” to your mother-in-law who tells you how to burp your baby properly.

It’s ok to say “no” to visitors when you need a rest, or your friends who want to come see the new baby when their children are poorly.

It’s also ok to say “no” to your baby or toddler.
Hear me in this – you can say “no”.


Just because you are a parent, does not make you a slave to your precious little person. Yes, you love them with every beat of your heart and would die for them in less than a second, but you are still the adult and they are not.

When your baby cries, it’s ok to say “no”. If you are unable to hold and rock your baby because you have other little ones to see too.
That is ok.

Saying “no”, isn’t “I don’t see you”, it’s simply, “I’m not at your beck and call”.
And sometimes there is only mummy at home to care for her little ones and only one pair of hands.

In our baby course I mentioned, the leader explained a story about a mother of three children who found it very difficult to say “no”.
Her children loved to play outside on the swing in their garden, however on this one day it was grey and wet and they were unable. Disappointment and tantrums followed this poor mother’s meek attempts to explain the weather situation.
However, so bound up in the trap of doing everything her children asked of her, she went outside and dismantled the swing, piece by piece.
And you guessed it, she then brought it inside and constructed it in the lounge room for her children, who by that time had moved on to other things.

An article in ‘The Sydney Morning Herald’, on this subject, says this:
“The pendulum has swung too far and we have gone from not being emotionally attuned with our children to thinking that protecting them from any discomfort or things that they don’t want to do, is a way of showing love”

What I am saying, is that being a parent is one of the most wonderful gifts one can experience in life, but don’t make yourself a slave to your children.

You are their greatest teachers! Every day holds countless opportunities to mould and shape their hearts – gently.
A child who is able to wait and delay gratification, is a wonderful person to be with, and actually mastering this, is one of the most important factors for future success in life“, says
Georgina Manning, Director of Wellbeing for Kids, and a counsellor and psychotherapist.

Model to them correct behaviour and as you do, they will benefit abundantly from these safe boundaries, rich in learning every day.
Be their guardian, as well as their greatest cheerleaders for life, and you will be amazed and immensely proud of the little people you raise. And I have a hunch, your heart will be happier too.

Which is a direct result, of on occasions, saying no.

 

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